“Man’s enemies are not demons, but human beings like himself.” – Lao Tzu
I recently posted a video on my website titled Face Your Demons. The purpose of this article is to emphasise those points from the video.
Firstly, facing your demons is a term for dealing with the repressed or unconscious aspects of your personality. You may have repressed them for a variety of reasons and remain consciously unaware of them. However, much like an iceberg of which ninety percent remains submerged underwater; the unconscious mind is useful to that analogy. It is responsible for your voluntary and involuntary actions.
Through awareness and understanding, you become aware of your unconscious actions, so as not to become a victim to the programmed patterns which accompany them.
1. Everything you desire lies on the other side of facing your demons.
Every person holds aspirations. It might have been a childhood dream up until adult hood when you became consumed by a job you no longer enjoyed; in order to pay the bills and make ends meets.
Before long you resigned yourself to the fact that you’ll never achieve your lifelong dream. You convinced yourself that dreams are fairy-tales only a select few can achieve. You arrive at this conclusion since you weren’t able to achieve yours. This makes you feel better rather than think of yourself as a failure.
Without the risk of painting a grim picture, I draw the point to your attention since many people experience mid-life crisis as a result of settling. They feel life has deprived them of something precious. They’re at a loss to navigate their way ahead, since they’ve been propelled forward and now find it impossible to turn back.
Your demons which represent your fears, insecurities, doubts or negative beliefs are the source of suffering. To achieve your desires, it is imperative to break through them to experience the greatness you deserve.
Even though you undertake the process of self examination, there are no guarantees life will reward you. There are no promises or assurances in life. Yet seemingly, you’re in the ideal position to achieve your dreams or goals when you face your demons.
2. Don’t allow the past to be drawn into the future, unless you make peace with it.
When following your path, the past may come back to revisit you. It does so to remind you of the neglected aspects of your life essential to your personal growth. If you overlooked a belief or emotion, it lays dormant at the unconscious level without your awareness.
Unexpectedly it serves as a reminder that you have unfinished business to attend to. You never know when your demons show up; though I can tell you they normally rear they’re ugly head when you’re emotionally vulnerable.
If something in your life is the cause of your unhappiness, attend to it by making peace with it. Find out what the belief or emotion wants you to understand. I speak from experience, having undertaken the process years ago. I became aware of emotions which I thought I attended to. Unknowingly they re-emerged when other related matters became apparent.
Instead of putting a lid on them this time, I addressed them in order to uncover the lesson behind them. Once addressed, they revealed an empowering aspect of my personality which I failed to recognise at the time.
3. Your demons change form when you face them. They transform into a gateway toward joy and bliss.
As mentioned in the last paragraph above when you face your demons, they have the power to transform energy into something greater. They appear as a negative state, since you suppressed them instead of allowing expression through you.
Imagine a friend who calls you regularly, yet you never return their call. In due course the friend gets angry since they’re at a loss to know why you haven’t returned their call.
While this analogy serves as simple metaphor, it highlights how your beliefs and emotions have the power to transform energy if left unchecked. When you attend to them, the emotion reveals the lesson essential to your personal development.
As I mention in the point title, they transform into joy and bliss when you make peace with them. The opposite state is to bury them deeper. Most people take the easy route continuing to repress their emotions until it’s too late. Don’t become that person.
4. Be willing to transform the energy. Be ready to look at things which you buried deep long ago.
The important feature of self examination is the willingness to address the repressed emotions or beliefs. Without the desire to clean out the closet so to speak, you remain victim to the emotion. It haunts you until it grows bigger and powerful in magnitude.
Give yourself permission to deal with the source of your unhappiness. Even if you don’t know how; it’s better than living in fear of life collapsing beneath you. I’ve witness people overcome with an intensity of buried emotions, it ruined their life. They fell victim to the ensuing emotions – which eventually overpowered them.
You’ll know when you’re ready to examine your concealed emotions. Your readiness will herald overcoming your buried past. While it may seem frightening at first; it pails into insignificance to the havoc wreaked if left unchecked. Be kind and patient with yourself during this process. You will experience a spectrum of emotions which bring you closer toward unveiling your authentic self.
5. Allow your light to shine on your demons. Like walking into a dark room to turn on the light, which overpowers the darkness.
The metaphor of allowing your light to shine on your demons signifies the essence and spirit of your true nature. Through spiritual work you discover there is more to you than a body and a mind.
You discover yourself as an unbound being with unlimited potential. Your potential becomes apparent when your demons are no longer the source of your pain. Like a prisoner held captive in a cell, your demons have the potential to generate the same effect.
Allowing your light to shine on your demons invites you to go within to find that source of bright energy. Personally I see it as a small white star within when meditating. When I give it energy, the light grows brighter filling my entire body. In that instance, I am the source of pure love and light. I recognise this quality as it feels familiar. It is kind, patient and non-judgemental. It doesn’t ask anything of me – yet I am drawn to it.
You too have this source of energy within you. By going into regular silence through meditation or being alone in nature, you become familiar with it. Ultimately you unite with it so that others become aware of your light.
Make a decision to face your demons if you seek to liberate yourself from an imprisoned past. Ask for guidance from those you trust unsure on where to begin. Invite loved ones to help you realise aspects of your personality you wish to work through.
Be gentle on yourself as you undertake this process. Don’t pass judgement or criticism on what is – merely observe through awareness. In doing so you not only liberate yourself from that past, you create a porthole into an unlimited future.
I’ve just come across your article and found it most interesting. While reading your article, I did find myself nodding my head as I do run and / or don’t want to face my demons.
Thanks Tony for some suggestions on facing my demons but more importantly how you faced your demons.
Thanks for your comment Brigette. Facing our demons or our shadow self can be an uplifting and liberating experience, since we break free from our imprisoned past. The key is the willingness to do so. Best wishes Tony