Why Your Challenges Don’t Expose Your Weaknesses, They Reveal Your Strengths

Published on: September 25, 2019

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Negative Emotions Leave Clues

“When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you. They’re sent to promote, increase and strengthen you.” — Anonymous

I’d like you to close your eyes and think of a difficult experience affecting you. Before you read any further, do this step to get a sense of how the problem is upsetting you. You may experience a range of emotions and I invite you to welcome them. Don’t push them away because they are uncomfortable. Allow them to be present, since unpleasant emotions can teach us something valuable if we are present to them. Good, now open your eyes and let’s talk more about your problems. Thankfully, you are one of billions of people lucky enough to experience challenges. Lucky you say? Are you insane, Tony? How am I lucky to have problems? You are lucky because your challenges contain the seeds of opportunities you have yet to discover.

Challenges contain enormous growth and when we overcome them, we can never go back to our old way of life. They help us recognise the endless possibilities and expand our consciousness. When I asked you to contemplate a current problem earlier, you no doubt experienced the negative emotions associated with it? And you would be right to feel this way because from where you stand, the problem seems insurmountable. However, when you bridge the gap, it is diminished and you can see your challenges from a new perspective. You’re unable to perceive your problem with that mindset now because you haven’t gained the growth yet.

Here’s the thing: it’s easy to see how our challenges expose our weaknesses, but we ought to think differently; they also reveal our strengths. If we accept the emotions that arise, we can work through our challenges more effectively. For example, I remember coaching a young woman named Jennifer. Each time she experienced difficulties in her life, she would call me in a frenzy and explain how the situation was consuming her. One day during a coaching session, I invited her to tackle her challenges without allowing her anxiety, fear, and frustration to get the better of her. I asked her to welcome these feelings since they were trying to teach her something important. Previously, she wanted to get rid of the emotions because they didn’t feel good. And I understand she would feel that way, however negative emotions can show us where we need to direct our attention.

The Problem Vs The Solution

“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change.” — Paulo Coelho

Does this make sense? Are you comfortable with the idea that negative emotions serve a purpose and we needn’t feel helpless because of them? I counselled Jennifer to be aware of her response and not push the emotions away. Given she felt anxious and irritated each time, meant the problem was important to her. It requires changing our response, so we remain calm instead of reacting to what is taking place. We ought to interact with our core emotions and work through the issues instead of responding negatively. For example, if you asked someone close to you whether the situation you’re experiencing is a major problem, they might think otherwise. The reason you react to it is because you are invested in the outcome. I’m not saying this is harmful. I am suggesting you accept your feelings by changing your response to what it means.

People believe problems expose their weaknesses because of the negative emotions that accompany it. If we experience fear, frustration, and anger, we might believe we are incapable of overcoming the experience. But they are signposts informing us the problem is important to us, otherwise we wouldn’t be experiencing them. So, welcome the negative emotions and process them as best you can and then deal with the problem before you. Can you do this? Can you give yourself the gift of looking at your problems from a new perspective instead of staying mired in negativity? I assure you, you can overcome any obstacle life throws at you. It’s a matter of biting through it one piece at a time, chewing it thoroughly and digesting what you need to.

You are not meant to bridge the gap from problem to solution in one go, otherwise you would be a genius. Problems and challenges arise because of the lessons and growth required for our life’s journey. They occur because the distance between the problem and the solution is where progress takes place. We can’t rush our personal growth any more than wishing a rose would grow quicker when planting the seed. We must nurture it daily with water, proper soil, and sunlight. And so it is with our challenges. Knowing this, I’d like you to return to your earlier problem. Write all the emotions you are experiencing on the left-hand side of a piece of paper or journal. Next to each emotion, write what you consider is the opposite of that emotion. For example, if you feel fear, what is the opposite of fear for you? Is it courage, faith, hope, or patience? Once you’ve gone through the list, reflect on what these negative states are inviting you to know. Contemplate them first thing in the morning and the last thing at night. Trust that your current situation is calling you to overcome your weaknesses to reveal your true strength of character.

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