Life Will Kick You Until You Are Down, But That’s When The Growth Occurs

Published on: July 11, 2017

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Struggle Is An Oppressive Adversary

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

How do we change our circumstances when lying face down in the gutter? Can a person recover from despair and overcome their pain and suffering? Pain is a menacing threat that grows in intensity and never leaves you. There are moments of respite, though it never leaves. Not in the way you want it to. That’s what sadness is like; despair interwoven with glimpses of elation. How do we transcend the pain? Are we meant to overcome or endure it? Does the person who endures the most in the end prevail? So many questions, yet answers are few.

Life is a one way conversation with a universe that speaks but doesn’t listen. She yells in a bellowing roar and we drown it out to retreat into the sanctuary of our mind.  Struggle is an oppressive adversary, like a boa constrictor enveloping you, pausing momentarily, then smothering you again. Can you relate to this feeling? We don’t want to be defined by our suffering, that’s not who we are, nor whom we intend to be. I recall a time when struggle and pain meant grazing my knee at soccer practice. The wounds eventually healed, and I was left with a faint scare to mark my fall.

Nowadays, pain lasts longer than a grazed knee. It is like being chased in a terrifying dream that never ends, stuck in an endless loop. In such moments, we are characterised by our struggle and assume the identity of the wounded victim. We have no choice because life thwarts us every time we try to rise. Garret Kramer writes in The Path of No Resistance: “All of us have experienced struggles that appeared to be the result of a certain situation, only to later ask ourselves: This situation isn’t so complicated. What in the world was troubling me?” But here’s what I found to be the antidote to suffering: We are pushed to grow in the moments, days and weeks that follow the despair. For some, it might be years, dare I say decades for growth to be realised.

Lean Into Your Pain

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill

I wish I could mend your pain in the way my mother took care of my grazed knee. But sometimes we must go it alone. For it was Winston Churchill who once said: “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” He knew pain and suffering ultimately recedes to give way to inner growth. Wishing away the pain does nothing to cultivate grit and strength of character. The gentlest souls are those who have endured the greatest hardships and gained a humility for life. “Let us never look hardship in the face and run. To do so is to tear ourselves from this world and this time, and to relinquish our growth and contributions in life. “Let us always remember that in addressing our pain and fear, we gain mastery over them,” writes Brendon Burchard in The Motivation Manifesto.

We are but a small cog in a wheel forever expanding and contracting. I’m reminded of a quote by the Buddha who said: “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” So, are you allowing life’s pain and struggle to define you or using it to grow and expand? Remember, the universe favours expansion. Everything taking place in your life right now is leading to the unfolding of your life’s narrative. You can recoil from it or lean into it. Suffering is the seed life plants in you to reveal your greatest potential, so you may come to know your authentic self.

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2 Responses to Life Will Kick You Until You Are Down, But That’s When The Growth Occurs

  1. Nate says:

    Tony that was really beautifully stated. I can personally relate and identify with this in my own life.
    More importantly, at this moment in time, this will be a help to a couple of friends that I am trying to encourage and who are going through a very hard time.
    Thank you,

    • Thank you for your comment Nate. Indeed, life can be hard but it is a testament to our strength of character that we attempt to rise up again when we fall. All the best!

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