“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.” – Lucille Ball
It is very important for one to love himself. When you don’t love yourself, it is hard to expect others to love you. Agreed, we may have many faults and shortcomings. But you must embrace yourself with all your faults and learn to love yourself.
Self love and self esteem are related to each other. If you suffer from low esteem, you can’t have enough self love. With low confidence, you will find it hard to love yourself at first, because you don’t think high of yourself. But as you start loving yourself, your self esteem will be boosted and you’ll have higher confidence.
If you want to love yourself, you need to make a conscious decision. It is a decision that you have to make for a fulfilled and happy life. With low self esteem, you can never reach your full potential. It is therefore a crucial ‘task’ to love yourself.
Here are some tips that will help you complete this task:
Understand yourself: if you want your personality to grow, you need to understand yourself, and know what makes you bloom. You may have many flaws, but you need to accept them and move on. You should understand that nobody is perfect. Yes, even the most perfect person you have met or idolised also has flaws. You are not the only one. Go ahead and stand in front of a mirror. Admire your reflection and fall in love with yourself. You might not be as important for others, but in your life story, you are the hero, and your life revolves around you.
Don’t criticise yourself: Do you belittle yourself over small things? Whenever you make any small mistake, do you get a voice inside your head telling you that you are stupid and good for nothing? If that happens a lot with you, you need to stop criticising yourself. It is important to look at your positive points instead of focusing on the negative ones.
Be positive and kind: When you start thinking positive, you become kinder towards yourself and your self love increases. With this, increases your self esteem and confidence. Kindness towards others also helps. You need to love other people. If you feel general hatred towards others, you’ll turn out to be a bitter person, and this will decrease your love towards yourself. Love others and try to help them. This will make you feel better about yourself and you’ll love yourself easily.
Acknowledge your efforts: You might not have succeeded, but at least you have made efforts. There are many people in the world who never make any efforts. If you made honest efforts about something, but were unable to succeed because of any reason, don’t let that bring you down. Making an effort is a big thing. It is not always about winning- sometimes, it’s the effort that counts.
Don’t worry: Your worries are the biggest let-downs of your life. Sometimes people don’t even make an effort because they are worried that if they fail, it will not look good. Just put your worries aside. Your worries won’t even let you prosper. If you want to taste success in your life, you need to stop worrying and make honest efforts.
Forgive yourself: We all make mistakes. You also made some mistakes. If you are holding on to your mistakes and thinking bad about yourself, you are making a huge mistake again. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn to forgive yourself. Unless and until you don’t forgive yourself, you will not be able to come out of your past and be successful. You must believe in yourself and know that whatever was done was not intentional. Also, you must convince yourself that you have learned a lesson and that mistake will not be repeated again.
Try to be spiritual: You might be an atheist, but the truth is, if you believe in a divine power, you get a hope in life. You might not agree to a religion, and you don’t really have to- it’s your choice. Just by believing that the universe takes care of things, you can let your worries go. Spirituality reduces pessimism and bitterness. If you are ever stressed out, just relax and think how big the universe is, and how unimportant we all are. Take the course of meditation. Meditation will relax your nerves and you’ll start loving yourself soon.
Be thankful: Be thankful for whatever life gives you. Not everyone gets full meals. Not everyone has access to a computer and internet… or a job… or a loving family. Just be thankful for what life has given you. This way you will appreciate the small things you have, and this will help you love yourself. You are physically fit and mentally sound. Not everyone has it- appreciate the blessings in life. Understand that you are lucky that you have all that.
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