The Smallest Step Forward
“If nothing changes, nothing changes. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’re going to keep getting what you’re getting. You want change, make some.” — Courtney C. Stevens
The reason people stay stuck in their circumstances is that they expect change to come from outside of them, instead of within. It is as though they are waiting for permission to move forward when they must first take action themselves. As the saying goes: “nothing changes, if nothing changes.” Can you relate to this? While some people have good intentions, their actions don’t line up to support them. They may have goals they’re pursuing, yet years later those goals remain in the distance because they didn’t act on them. Sometimes, it’s easy to settle for the status quo through:
- Living pay cheque to pay cheque, instead of taking action towards your goals.
- Being in a toxic relationship because you don’t want to be alone or hurt your partner.
- Working a job you loathe because looking for another one requires effort and change.
- The pain associated with negativity is comforting because it validates the misery.
Most people are committed to change, but can’t get past the hurdles that inhibit their progress. They begin with great momentum, though a month later they are back to a familiar routine. Change must come from within; even the smallest step forward is enough to propel us in the right direction. This step can create lasting change in our life, but must be accompanied by well-intentioned objectives. Change requires effort. It requires stepping out of our comfort zone, digging deep, stirring up passion, and going for it with all we have. Have you considered why some people are successful and others are not? Successful people work towards their goals and understand that hard work (and wisdom) pays off.
Staying in our comfort zone is not conducive to our long-term success. We must venture into uncharted territory if we wish to experience something new. Inspired action results from empowering thoughts. So, to change our circumstances, we must change our thinking. Change is often permanent once the individual has transformed their sabotaging thoughts. This is foreshadowed by a deeper realisation which gives way to real progress. Change requires courage and faith, yet has a ripple effect in our lives. It can include a change in living conditions without having to move places. Sometimes, something as simple as rearranging our furniture leads to a change in thought patterns because of the metaphysical relationship. Similarly, a change in direction can trigger a shift in our career and is likely to reap benefits down the line.
The Sense Of Reckless Adventure
“Twenty years from now you will be disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” — Mark Twain
The change cycle reveals the six stages of change. Beginning with Loss, which is characterised by feelings of fear and being paralysed. It concludes with Integration, highlighting the satisfaction we experience when we are settled into an unfamiliar environment. A new life is possible when we take consistent action, despite our fears and doubts. In this way, we make incremental changes without speeding up towards our future. It is important to embrace transformation because the knowledge gained is vital to our new way of life. Without stating the obvious, life isn’t about ‘success’ alone. However, most people want to be successful without devoting themselves to the hard work to get there. If we’re not experiencing success (or accomplishing our goals and desires), something has to change.
Working with a business coach or life coach can help us get past the hurdles to create clear goals. An action plan to achieve them, and accountability are the keys to making progress. Accountability is a motivating force for those who seek change but don’t know how to go about it. We are inspired to work towards definable goals since we have someone to guide and motivate us. What about you?
Where do you stand in relation to your goals for this year?
Are you on target to reach them?
Are you moving forward towards them consistently?
Are you happy with your progress?
What would you like to be different?
What does your optimal life look like?
So many questions to consider. Yet, if you don’t examine them, you are likely to be drawn off-course by distractions and find yourself in a place not of your choosing, doing meaningless tasks. It is the sense of reckless adventure we must embark upon to bring fulfilment, passion and joy to our lives. Regret and resentment cannot dwell in the heart and mind of someone committed to their work. Therefore, abandon your pain and disillusionment and reach beyond the comforts of your armchair, to seek a life where dreams come true. Dare to be exceptional. Dare to be bold. Awaken your inner spirit and light the radiance of your highest self that summons you to create a life of passion.