7 Ways To Accept Yourself Through Unconditional Love

Connect With Your Purposeful Self

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”—Steve Maraboli

It’s important for our personal development to love ourselves, otherwise we can’t expect others to love us. Whilst humans have many faults and shortcomings, embracing our faults is central to accepting ourselves as we are. Loving ourselves should become our highest priority, if we wish to live authentically; from a place of non-resistance. I don’t mean loving ourselves in a self-centred way but to embrace our uniqueness and the gifts. Low self-esteem puts the brake on our personal growth because it restricts our concept of self. Therefore, we may never reach our full potential if we entertain recurring thoughts of low self-esteem. Consider the following thoughts as a guide for reconnecting with your purposeful self and developing a stronger relationship with yourself.

1. Know Yourself

If we desire personal growth, it is vital we understand ourselves better, and know what makes us bloom. We may know our flaws, yet embracing them and moving forward becomes our source of courage. Nobody is perfect and knowing that it is a waste of time to spend our entire life trying to fill an empty shoe that doesn’t exist. Yes, even his Holiness the Dalai Lama is subject to the conditions of human frailty. Therefore, I invite you to stand before a mirror and admire your reflection. Do you like what you see? What feelings arise when you look deeply into your eyes? Some people are loath to appreciate themselves and their body. Whilst you may not consider yourself as important as other people, you are the hero in your life’s journey.

2. Let Go Of Self-Criticism

Do you belittle yourself over small things? When you make a mistake, are you aware of the inner critic reminding you of your imperfections? Criticising yourself will get you nowhere fast. People who practise self-compassion are more successful in life, with a healthier outlook. It is vital to associate with your positive traits instead of focusing on the negative ones. Be mindful you are not reliving a childhood phase of your life by reconnecting with a critical parent. Therefore, let go of your need to judge yourself and move towards being empathetic with judgements of yourself.

3. Embrace Your Positive Nature

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”—Rumi

When you entertain positive thoughts, you are kinder towards yourself, so your self-love and self-esteem increases. Kindness towards others becomes an expression of one’s self-love. You can only give out what you hold in your heart. Therefore, if you believe you are undeserving of attention and kindness, you will probably withhold sharing these virtues with others. Every person is born positive; it’s their environment which shapes them into a bitter or negative individual. Even at this stage, you can still embrace your positive nature. Nothing is carved in stone unless you give it power and permission.

4. Acknowledge Your Success

You might not have succeeded according to your terms and definition, yet the definition of success is arbitrary. What does success look like to you? There are many people who never attempt to step out of their comfort zone and insist success paves a path to their front door. If you attempted to pursue something you desired, but didn’t succeed, don’t let that impair your definition of success. Failure is part of the process to reach your goals. Those who succeed will tell you they failed repeatedly before reaching success. Your success is determined by how you bounce back from your failures and the lessons gained. Trying is a big thing. It is not always about winning, sometimes it’s the effort that counts.

5. Let Go Of Worry

Worrying is a futile emotion that is better spent taking action. Worrying uses up vital emotional energy which can be channelled into developing emotional resiliency and fortitude. The more you entertain worrying thoughts, the more you reinforce a mind that becomes habituated to worrying. There is a term in neuropsychology known as the Hebbian theory which states: nerves that fire together, wire together. When you entertain worrying thoughts, you set up stronger neural connections in the brain for worrying to exist. Set your worries aside, since they may hold you back from prospering at greater levels. Surely, you want to taste success and transform your worries into empowering emotions, which can serve your greatest potential?

6. Forgive Yourself

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”—Louise Hay

We all make mistakes, some people make more than others, yet that does not qualify you or them to think less of oneself. Holding on to your mistakes inhibits vital neural pathways in the brain from learning. Your brain is engineered for growth and learning within a receptive environment. No one is immune to making mistakes. Therefore, forgive yourself by practicing detachment from outcomes. Trust that whatever happened in the past was done with the level of awareness apparent to you. You were doing the best you could with the resources available to you; thus forgiveness opens the door to help you move forward. Appreciate the lessons gained from your experiences by seeing them as an opportunity to gain the emotional resiliency to fight other battles.

7. Be Grateful

If you’re reading this on a smartphone or electronic device, you have every reason to be grateful. If you have access to a computer, you are privileged to have electricity and are more likely to live an industrialised country with suitable resources. Almost seven hundred million people on the planet live below the poverty line, and they expect this figure will rise over the coming years. At the time of writing, the world’s population is 7.7 billion people. Yet, less than half get by on $2.50 a day. Without turning this into a sermon on why we should be grateful, it is worth appreciating how much there is to be grateful for when we consider those numbers. Gratitude entails being thankful for what is available in our life NOW. It does not mean being grateful when we gain something or someone contributes to our happiness. It means recognising what is available to us at this moment results from our thoughts, beliefs and energy.

Similarly, being grateful does not mean comparing oneself to others who are less fortunate; for we are all navigating our own journey in life. People often ask me: “Tony, how can I be grateful when people are homeless and others are dying in third-world countries?” My reply is: “It is your obligation to be grateful not for what is happening in other parts of the world, but what is happening in your world.” Consider if every person in the world raised their thought energy to one of gratitude? The collective consciousness of humanity would expand to the degree that poverty, homelessness and other diseases and illnesses would no longer be a threat to our way of life. Whilst this sounds like a Utopian existence, it is conceivable that we can make slow strides toward this possibility if we play our part in the evolution of humanity.

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