Allow Life To Show You Endless Possibilities
“You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.” — Jack Canfield.
It’s fair to say many things hold us back from living an extraordinary life. We are often controlled by our habits or lack thereof, our fears, and the opinions of others. This impacts our self-esteem and prevents us from revealing our unique gifts and talents. Yes, we all have extraordinary gifts to share, even if they are unfamiliar to us. Those who achieve remarkable things embark on a quest to develop their talents and share them with the world. How about you? What are your exceptional talents and gifts? Are you aware of them, or are you still developing those qualities? Take a moment to reflect on this.
Regardless of where you are, life is about discovering your authentic self and living by your highest values. Therefore, we mustn’t be restricted by limiting factors as they reduce our potential to become our best selves. It is a given that we will make mistakes and encounter setbacks throughout our lives. But this serves a purpose insofar as it strengthens our inner resolve and character. Think about this in your own life. What difficulties have you faced that contributed to the person you are today? What lessons did you discover through your problems?
What follows is how we can overcome being controlled by our habits, fears, and the opinions of others. An extraordinary life does not resemble others, such as rock stars or Hollywood actors. It is an exceptional life, one established by overcoming setbacks and challenges and discovering the essence of your core self. To live an extraordinary life needn’t be as terrifying as we think. It requires setting aside our preconceived notions of what we deserve and allowing life to reveal endless possibilities. It entails healing and transforming our past, including our former life and any unnecessary baggage we still hold onto. Remember, change is always possible, and growth is inevitable.
Your Habits
“You can influence, direct, and control your environment. “ You can make your life what you want it to be.” — Napoleon Hill.
Many people are controlled by their habits because they choose less-than-optimal, easy routines. However, this comes at a price and catches up to us more quickly than we expect. I don’t intend to belittle anyone’s choices but rather to highlight how we often live below our capabilities. This is my experience coaching clients for over a decade. I’ve observed a pattern in virtually every individual I’ve coached; many are unaware of their full potential due to their unhealthy habits. Therefore, we must conquer our limiting habits and move towards what is in our best interest.
For example, people often say they don’t feel like going to the gym to work out. On the other hand, the successful person sets these feelings aside and shows up, irrespective of how they feels. I constantly have this dialogue with myself when I don’t feel like swimming laps at my local pool or going to the gym. I observe my thoughts, thank them, and still show up because I know that once I arrive, things inevitably change. The key is not to be dictated by our emotions but to rely on strong habits and discipline to live a remarkable life. It requires setting aside our fleeting emotions to focus on the long game.
Your Fears
“Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Our fears often dominate our lives to the extent that they hinder our ability to achieve happiness. I have a profound understanding of fear, as it was instilled in me by my well-intentioned mother during my childhood. She constantly exclaimed, “watch out” or “be careful,” and I developed a paranoia about taking risks. Can you identify with this in your own life? Have you experienced something similar that became a part of your life without your knowledge? In my case, I stopped taking risks because fear dominated my life. This came at a cost to my happiness because I stopped stepping outside my comfort zone. My fears dictated my actions, while others refused to let their fears dominate them.
I suggest that we transform our fears instead of allowing them to rule our lives. We should confront them head-on since fear isn’t as terrible as we think. It is the fear of fear that we are most scared of, and that is why we prefer to stay in our comfort zone. For instance, if you fear public speaking, start by speaking in front of a small group of friends or family. Negative emotions don’t feel good, but we can still learn a great deal about ourselves if we stop running away from them. Therefore, confront your fears instead of letting them control you.
The Opinions Of Others
“Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.” — Dale Carnegie
I don’t know many people who don’t care about the opinions of others. I recall a well-known celebrity who once moved into our neighborhood long ago, who said that what other people think of me is none of my business. At the time, I didn’t fully understand the impact of that statement. Similarly, my father rarely cared what others thought of him because he made choices in his family’s best interests. This annoyed others, but my father didn’t care because he chose his family’s welfare over others’ opinions.
So, I urge you to look within and examine why you want to conform to what others think of you. What advantage do you get from pleasing others at the expense of your misery? There is often a deep-rooted need for others to like us, but this comes at a cost to our self-esteem and self-worth. Eventually, we must conquer this limiting behavior and make choices that benefit our future. When we stop being controlled by our habits, our fears, and the opinions of others, we are no longer imprisoned by something external to us. I encourage you to take the first step toward personal growth today.
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Tony Fahkry
Expert Life Coach
