On A Wing And Prayer
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream.” — Mark Twain
A remarkable life begins by casting away the bowline on our former life, in exchange for new beginnings. Whilst we may not know the steps required, we recognise our current experience is not what we want. Once we make our intention to change our circumstances, the pieces of the puzzle will come together. Most journeys are lined with detours, dead-ends and eventual success. Our voyage comprises peaks and turning points where we confront our demons, and rise above them. Therefore, we must assume responsibility for our future, which means accepting everything that arises along the way. Nothing happens overnight. Where success comes fast, it can be easily squandered, so we mustn’t be in a haste to upgrade our life sooner. It’s not how fast we reach our destination, but the lessons and experiences that matter.
Can you identify with this narrative in your own life? There is no place to get to because as soon as we arrive, we long to be somewhere else. We cannot create a remarkable life without the help of others. As social creatures, valued relationships propel us to new heights. My greatest life experiences resulted from connecting with people whom I thought had little to offer. However, they imparted precious wisdom and knowledge when I needed it most. Similarly, it’s vital we surround ourselves with people who sympathise with our cause and who don’t sabotage our plans. The world is full of detractors and cynics, unable to pursue their dreams. They may have failed and will insist we cannot succeed either. We must steer clear away from them because they will find every excuse and convince us it can’t be done.
Humility and kindness will take us far because we never know when our circumstances will change. To repay the services of those who help us, or by paying it forward, is something we must take into account. We ought to discover our innate confidence, irrespective of the reality we face. This leads to a resolute conviction because we discover the essence of our true nature in moments of determination. Failure and rejection become our allies since anything of value requires: commitment, dedication and time. We mustn’t allow our fears and insecurities to cripple us because ninety percent of the world don’t take action on their dreams because their fears overpower them. Gradually, the years slip away and they’ve achieved little, much to their regret because they entertain disempowering thoughts that keep them safe within their comfort zone.
Happiness Arises From A Focused Purpose
“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.” — Tony Robbins
Yet, a safe refuge will seldom award you a remarkable life. It’s the assurance of living an normal life, which I’m sure is not what you want. An extraordinary life is created by conceding parts of our life that are not working, while attaining something greater. To discover our calling is essential if we seek to align with purpose. Hidden in these treasures lies our passion, instead of a career or a job we loathe. Those who pursue their purpose have an unwavering commitment to serve others and are pulled by the exuberance for life. “You’re either remarkable or invisible,” declares author Seth Godin in his bestselling book Purple Cow. I appreciate the notion to answer our calling since it is grounded in purpose and intention, key aspects of universal wisdom. A calling can be as minor as writing poetry for family and friends or as grand as humanitarian efforts in third world countries. Is this something you’re willing to give your attention to, if you haven’t already? Go out and find your calling.
Therefore, we mustn’t succumb to those who advocate your calling is less than glamorous because if it resonates with you, there’s a good chance you’re following it. There’s talk nowadays of pursuing happiness, which to me is a first-world issue. At least we’ve reached the consensus that material possessions do not equate to fulfillment. The greatest source of happiness arises from a focused purpose. It requires attending to big picture issues instead of trivial ones that occupy our time and energy. We must trade the familiar for the uncertain and be guided by the appeal of the journey. For when we jump, the net will appear, but not a moment sooner until we take the plunge. The promise of a remarkable life is a journey of self-discovery. It sets the intention and the seed of opportunity for the next phase of our life. We won’t know what the imminent future holds until we start out on the path.
Similarly, we mustn’t despair because most people have the capacity to surmount any circumstances life presents. All our needs are taken care of and will continue to serve us as long as we maintain trust. It’s not important what a remarkable life looks like, however we must believe it is attainable. We should allow life to show us how to merge into this future and be willing to embrace what arises. It is why we mustn’t become a bystander, waiting for circumstances to change or improve. We should enter the arena as a gladiator and assuage our fears while silencing our doubts. To the victor goes the spoils. Spectators are self-imposed critics who sit on the side-lines, while others take massive action to create extraordinary circumstances. Life is too precious to be an onlooker. To live a remarkable life entails immense personal growth and self-improvement. The person you are today, is not the person you will become 12 months or 5 years from now. For success is a by-product of inspired action. So, cast away the bowline and set your sail towards a prosperous future. You never know where it will take you, and that’s the greatest adventure we can embark on; trusting ourselves and life to serve our needs.