Life is full of difficulties, successes and failures, and moments of joy and sorrow. It can be challenging to find the balance between these two extremes and be okay with what happens and what doesn’t. But it is possible to develop the power to accept both the positive and negative aspects of life without getting overwhelmed by them. By accepting the circumstances of life, we can create a life full of contentment, peace, and balance. By developing self-awareness, creating healthy boundaries, and engaging in empowering self-talk, it is possible to cultivate the power of being comfortable with whatever life brings.
What Is The Power Of Acceptance?
“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.” — Marcus Aurelius
Accepting what happens is a way of thinking that can help you handle both the positive and negative aspects of life more easily. It means being able to accept what comes your way, regardless of whether you are pleased or disappointed about it. And it also means being able to let go of things that disappoint you without getting stuck in that feeling of disappointment.
Being okay with what happens involves cultivating a sense of openness. This means being able to stay engaged in life, but without attaching your self-worth to any specific result. Acceptance means you can enjoy the good things that come your way without feeling guilty about not doing more. And when you experience a disappointment, you don’t get stuck in that feeling of failure. You can let it go and move forward. Are you comfortable with this understanding that you can allow life to flow through you instead of clutching to your disappointments?
“Self-awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.” — Debbie Ford
When you’re feeling content, happy, and balanced, you’re in a state of acceptance. This is often referred to as being self-aware. When you’re in this state, you are more likely to respond to life in a way that is healthy and beneficial to you. But because these moments are not constant, you can use various tools to help you stay in a state of acceptance. Being aware of your positive and negative emotions, as well as the thoughts and beliefs that accompany them, is an important aspect of developing self-awareness. When you can notice how you feel in the present moment, you respond to these emotions in a more supportive way.
For example, if you notice you feel frustrated, it is helpful to know that it is normal to feel that way when you experience frustration. You can use this awareness to release the frustration in a healthy way. And if you notice you are experiencing sadness, you can use your awareness to explore why you felt that way. By exploring your emotions and thoughts without judgement, you identify patterns and triggers that are contributing to your negative emotions. This can help you respond more effectively to these emotions in the future.
Creating Healthy Boundaries
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” — Brene Brown
Setting healthy boundaries helps you to stay in a state of acceptance of what life brings. When you have healthy boundaries, you can enjoy the positive things that come into your life, but you can also let go of the things that don’t. You can enjoy your relationships and friendships, but you can also let go of relationships and friendships that don’t bring you the joy and fulfilment that you deserve. When you have healthy boundaries, you can say no to things that you don’t have the energy to do, you can say yes to things that bring you joy, and you can walk away from toxic relationships.
Having healthy boundaries helps you to avoid getting overwhelmed by the negative aspects of life. When you can set healthy boundaries, you can protect your energy without feeling guilty. You can say no to things that you don’t have the capacity to do, and you can walk away from unhealthy relationships. Healthy boundaries allow you to feel more content and peaceful. They also help you avoid getting stuck in the emotions that go along with feeling guilty about not doing enough, or being around people who drain you of your energy.
Learning To Accept What Is
“Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality, it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness.” — Eckhart Tolle
Accepting what is constitutes an important aspect of welcoming life. When you accept what is, you can let go of the things that disappoint you and move forward in your life without feeling stuck in that feeling of disappointment. This can be challenging, especially when you are experiencing a lot of discontent in your life. It is helpful to remind yourself that it is normal to experience some displeasure in your life, even when you are doing your best.
It is also helpful to remember that you don’t control what happens to you or how other people behave. What you have control over is how you respond to these things. If a situation disappoints you, it is helpful to recognise that you have the power to let go of disappointment. You have the power to release those feelings and find contentment in what is in your life.
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie
Cultivating gratitude is another important aspect of accepting the circumstances of life. When you cultivate gratitude, you can enjoy the good things that come into your life and you can let go of the things that don’t. When you cultivate gratitude, you can respond to your emotions in a more helpful way. You can enjoy the emotions that arise, but you can also release them when they have served their purpose. You can enjoy the things that you have to do, but you can also let go of the things you don’t enjoy.
Cultivating gratitude is important because it is choosing to look at your challenges differently. It is choosing to focus on other aspects of your life which you are abundantly grateful for. Considering this, take a moment and write in your diary or journal what aspects of life you are resisting at the present time. Why do you think you are resisting these experiences? What are you hoping for instead? Could there be a greater lesson embedded in these experiences that you are running away from? I don’t know the answers, and neither will you until you take the time to explore your inner world. After all, finding your balance is about learning to accept the conditions of life as they are and surfing the waves of discontentment, without conceding to it.