See Yourself Through The Eyes Of Love
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” — Brené Brown
Despite what you think about yourself, you are perfect the way you are. You are born with perfect genes and a mind and body that defies what mankind is capable of engineering. Your role is to embrace the wholeness of your being and see yourself through the eyes of love. I’ve experienced a glimpse of what this feels like during meditation. It was pure bliss. The happiness and fulfilment you search for, lies within you and seeks you as much as you seek it. How is it possible that an intelligence responsible for the sun rising each day, birds flying in unison and the beating of our heart, be anything less than perfect?
Many people fail to consider the miracle of these occurrences because they take them for granted. Yet, children appreciate life is a miracle. There’s beauty in the unknown for children, as evident in the passage: looking through a child’s eyes. For example, my young nephew delights in discovering insects in the garden. He never ceases to tire of it and describes them in great detail. He once asked his mother how the different insects know their role within Mother Nature. Who tells the bees to pollinate a flower without other insects competing for the task? Children recognise miracles because they are innocent enough to expect them.
To appreciate something greater, means to recognise the same intelligence is at work in our own life. Our minds are not equipped to fully grasp the mystery which takes place in our lives, and yet we complain when it doesn’t work as planned. For example, recall the last time you thought of someone and bumped into them later that day? Such events are normal occurrences for me. Call it what you will: chance, luck, coincidence, providence, fate or synchronicity; they all play a role in our lives if we are open to them.
Love is a universal mystery. How do you measure love? Sure, you might recite the chemical reactions that takes place between two people in love, but where does love reside? Is it in the human heart or within the realm of consciousness? Why has science yet to prove it? The point worth making is: we are made in the image of a greater intelligence and there can be no mistake of our worthiness and perfection.
Embrace Your Imperfections
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu
Do you embrace your imperfections or find fault in physical aspects of your body? Self-acceptance means to acknowledge who you are, not who you should be. People get confused with this term because they believe it means accepting your faults. It is not that at all. Self-acceptance means to accept yourself knowing you are constantly evolving. Yet, if you struggle with this idea, how will you accept yourself when you become more? Some people are never satisfied with themselves, since there is always something to gain, be do or have. This creates emptiness within because you are like a checkout operator, processing transactions instead of delighting in what you have. How can you develop a better relationship with your imperfections? Are you willing to consider your flaws through a different lens? No one need be perfect because perfection is a man-made ideal that is unattainable. It makes sense to accept yourself, since you are a work in progress and your job will never be done while you are alive.
Do you see the beauty in others or find faults in their appearance, intelligence, upbringing or status? We should notice the goodness in others, rather than perceive their flaws. If someone is different to you, try looking for favourable qualities in that person. There’s always an opportunity to appreciate something in others, even if you need to look harder. Remember, what you recognise in others is apparent in you. The definition of the Hindu word Namaste translates to: I bow to the divine in you that I see in myself. In other words, the perfection in others, is also alive in you. By acknowledging it, you embrace your own perfection.
See the beauty in others and instead of judging them, consider seeing them with the thought: “That person is interesting.” Try it out and note how you feel at the end of the day. I’ve asked my coaching clients to practice this exercise and they report how peaceful they feel. Judging and criticising is hard work and requires mental effort. Moreover, our minds are accustomed to this way of thinking due to an inherent negativity bias. Notice others without judging them and you will undoubtedly feel better and more peaceful. You are perfect just the way you are and through your acceptance of it, you allow the same consciousness to develop through you. It is not conceited to regard yourself in high esteem. It is only arrogant when you think you are better than others. Therefore, embrace the wholeness of your being and allow your inner radiance to shine. And as you do, you will allow others to do the same.