“The time is now, the place is here. Stay in the present. You can do nothing to change the past and the future will never come exactly as you plan or hope for.” – The Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman
Have you ever had that feeling, things aren’t going to plan? You wish you’d taken a different course in life? Perhaps if you’d got better grades at school, stuck it out at that job or stayed in that relationship, things would be better?
I’ve experienced such feelings on numerous occasions throughout my life. My mind wanders endlessly examining scenarios I could have taken, allowing me a more fulfilling life. That type of thinking, however usually shows up when I’m facing inner turmoil. My ego believes it knows what’s best for me; oh how wrong it can be at times!
The truth of the matter is this – the present moment is perfect. You are in the perfect place right now. The need to beat yourself up, re-examining how things could have been different, is ego getting its way. You chose a life path which has led you to this moment – acceptance is the first step toward fulfilment.
The Western view suggests you are in control of your life based on the choices you make. The Eastern view proposes the opposite – we are mere puppets in this purposeful universe – everything is preordained or destined.
An alternative spiritual view suggests that 65% of our lives are destined whilst 35% is through willful action. My purpose in emphasising these points of view is to provide you with an alternative stance. My personal belief is the later. I believe a large portion of our lives are predestined; thus having willful control to overwrite our destiny.
Predetermined destiny may include such things as what family you are born to; whom you’ll marry (if you choose to); major illnesses; major life occurrences etc. It constitutes the principal aspects of one’s life, while wilful action is being a co-creator within the overall plan.
In his book You’ll See It When You Believe It, Dr Wayne Dyer states the following “You can be detached from any need to interfere in an aggressive way with anyone and be receptive to all that is surrounding you, as well as all that you are surrounding. You can stop the endless analysis of everything and instead flow more peacefully, knowing that the divine intelligence that supports your form is working perfectly and that it always will.”
Adopting this way of thinking as Dr Dyer recommends frees you from the need to question and analyse every decision you make. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be right now! You’re ability to change any internal or external condition is made through awareness and understanding. The ability to create your future arises through your willingness to let go of the past and how the future should be. In doing so, you allow the undertaking of all future possibilities to occur by being present and aware.
Your Journey to Inner Freedom
Awaken Your Authentic Self is identifying with your authentic nature, by freeing yourself from distorted thinking and beliefs. These are ideas you learned along your journey to adulthood to save yourself from being hurt; thus thwarting your success and brilliance.
Stop fighting and resisting the present moment; whatever condition you currently face. A similar analogy may be akin to slowly sinking in quicksand. To add to further injury, you’re now resisting and attempting to fight your way out. As you do so, you’re overcome by the quicksand; sinking deeper and deeper until it’s too late to free yourself.
I’m suggesting the universe is offering you a lifeline, inviting you to stop fighting back. She advises you to remain calm and still in order to free yourself from your self-imposed burden. When you’re still and calm, you are calling on your internal helper – the know-er of all things to come to your aid. This inner knowing has all the answers you could ever need.
Start using your right brain to help steer your way out of your prison. Your right brain is random, intuitive, holistic, synthesizing and whole. It does not speak to you in the same manner as you left brain which is logical, rational, analytical and objective. Your right brain is where you’ll find the real you. It speaks to you in quiet whispers. Throw caution to the wind by listening to those silent calls from within from time to time.
Your life needn’t be a struggle. Your problems are opportunities, if you allow them to be. Stop your destructive and distorted thinking which tells you the world should be a certain way; that life owes you something or people must fulfill your standards. Accept ‘things’ just the way they are; since that’s EXACTLY how they are. Your need to make things fit your mold is the cause of your suffering.
I’m not suggesting you accept less than you deserve. I’m suggested you become awake and aware in order that you become the NAVIGATOR of life; willing to sail in any type of condition. Too often, people view those things life deals them as unwelcomed. To the enlightened, it is viewed as a gift; a valuable lesson. The lexicon “How may I use this lesson to my advantage?” becomes an empowering reflection to view your role as co-creator of your life.
So abandon your shackles by breaking free from all that holds you back. Affirm the following: “I refuse to live this way anymore. I choose to honour the greatness that is my birthright, from this moment. I will not entertain limiting thoughts of lack, uncertainty or doubt. I choose to live the life of my dreams; allowing my genius to shine into the world.”
I dare you to be great. I dare you to be brilliant. I dare you to let your light shine. I dare you to become the best you can be. Whatever you think is stopping you – is not. So go now and become that person!
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