“You must be the person you have never had the courage to be. Gradually, you will discover that you are that person, but until you can see this clearly, you must pretend and invent.” – Paulo Coelho
What is it that you want? What are your desires? Do you consciously have desires and wants that you desire to see fulfilled or have you settled for where you are in life? Do you focus more on what you are NOT happy with instead of focusing on the positives in your life? Are you going against the current instead of flowing effortlessly with the current?
Most people simply want to feel peace and happiness. There can be plenty of other goals, but ultimately they want those goals to bring them a feeling of contentment, peace, and joy. Alarmingly, those feelings are not experienced by a great majority of the population for a variety of reasons.
It is important to understand that the attitudes and feelings that you have today will directly influence your attitudes and feelings tomorrow. What this means is that if you are unhappy, sad, hopeless, and miserable today, it is more than likely that you will be the same tomorrow. If your thoughts today are predominantly negative, chances are that you thoughts will be the same tomorrow.
I’m sure you have met plenty of people who are radiating negative energy by complaining or just feeling plain miserable. They may not want to be that way, but somehow they have gotten into the habit of allowing negativity to rule their lives. Perhaps you struggle with negativity as well. It sure is a downer but I assure you that there is a way out. There are plenty of people who have transformed their thoughts in order to experience more positivity in their lives and so can you.
Life can throw some awful things at us. Life can be crazy at times and sometimes it really is hard to keep a positive perspective when tragic things happen. You can become disappointed, frustrated, angry, resentful, depressed. You can settle, give up, or become a recluse who just doesn’t care anymore. Or you can kick negativity right out of your life and refuse to let it back in.
You want to be happy? Positive? Hopeful? Helpful? I assure you that you can but it will take some effort on your part. Anything of value in life is likely to cost you something. The first thing that I want you to do is to write down what it is you want. Perhaps you want to do more of these:
Laugh, love, play, relax, vacation, socialise, exercise, read, etc.
Perhaps you want to discover your primary purpose or a new career. Perhaps you simply want to look forward to getting out of bed each day.
You can. Write down what you want and then begin visualising yourself having all those things. Lie in bed and see yourself happy, smiling, laughing, and full of purpose and passion. See yourself with outstanding social connections, a fulfilling career, plenty of relaxation time, plenty of resources. Creative visualisation will help your brain to be re-trained from primarily negative thinking to positive thinking.
Many have lost sight of who they really are at the core. You are magnificent, resourceful, creative, and radiant spirits that were created to live a life full of passion. You were created to feel loved and to help others to feel loved. Yes, sometimes hardships and heartache come and we allow those to strip us of so much but we don’t have to. There are plenty of people who have made it through very challenging times and choose the rise above bitterness, sadness, and negativity and adopt a positive, happy disposition.
Your attitude and perspective are so important. Look for the positive things in your life and accentuate those. It is a great idea to sit down and write out a gratitude list. Write down everything that you are grateful for and post that paper in a spot that you can see frequently. An attitude of gratitude opens your heart to receiving even more good things in life.
Even if you are going through a terrible time, force yourself to FEEL happy today. Do things that make you happy and that will create a positive ripple effect in your life. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression, “Fake it till you make it”, and the principle is quite true. Smile even when you don’t want to. Do things that make you laugh. Be silly. Be free. Allow yourself to have fun. Allow yourself to be who you were created to be:
- Full of purpose.
- Full of passion.
- Full of potential.
- Full of love.
I will take your point on board about being positive and writing down what I want…it’s just the first that I find really hard, any suggestions?
Trust in the process Lisa. Sometimes we don’t see the fruit of our labour until we’ve learned to detach from the outcome. Enjoy the process of self mastery and ultimately all will fall into place with ease and simplicity. Remember, nature does not complicate what it can simplify – Best wishes!