“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” – Marcus Aurelius
The Buddhist principle states you are not the sum of your thoughts, rather the observer of the thoughts. Many people entertain limiting thoughts around lack of in their lives. I am not good enough, I am overweight, I am not good enough. These thoughts lead to a feedback loop of self deprecating thoughts which fuel the emotional body.
The truth of the matter is that your habitual thoughts do not represent the real you. Do you think great leaders entertain limiting thoughts like these? I think not. They don’t allow them to enter into their mind in the first instance, since they recognise that a truly great person does not think this way. You are a great person. Understand what that means for a moment.
All great leaders started out like others. They weren’t always inspiring or at least their genius or talents were latent. What separated them from others was their minds and ability to not buy into limiting thoughts. They had a vision or goal of being greater than they were. You can create the same life if you choose.
As you become the observer of the thought, this poses the question as to who is having the thought. Since you are now divested of your thoughts by not identifying with them. This allows one to become removed from the habitual pattern we fall into – believing that we are what we think. We affirm that since we are the experiencer of the thought, they must be true.
In an earlier blog post I spoke about being the silent witness standing at the shoreline observing your thoughts as though they were waves coming in. Some waves arrive fast and furiously, yet seem to dissolve as soon they hit the shore. Others slowly find their way in yet also fade away. By becoming the observer, you allow the witness of the thoughts to take shape.
The witness or observer does not become invested in the waves. They appreciate there are different waves (thoughts) entertained in one’s mental landscape. They notice more and identify less with them. The observer approach requires some discipline and practice. Learn to have some fun with it. In no time, you’ll notice as you become better, the limiting thoughts arrive less frequently. You are not giving them life or energy anymore, so they have no place in your mind.
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