A Commanding Self-Belief
“The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.”—Benjamin Disraeli
Long ago, a man was reading the morning newspaper and noticed his name in the obituary column. To his surprise, the newspapers had reported the death of the wrong person. His first response was shock. When he regained his composure, he sought to find out what people said of him. The obituary read: “Dynamite King Dies” and “He was the merchant of death.” Given the man was the inventor of dynamite, being christened the “merchant of death” was not how he wanted to be remembered. After a moment of reflection, he decided to renew his life purpose. From that day on, he vowed to work towards peace. His name was Alfred Nobel and he is widely known today by the great Nobel Prize. How do you want to be remembered? What lasting impression do you wish to leave behind?
Whilst we seldom contemplate our own mortality however reflecting on the value of our life allows us to consider what is important to us. Life can be lived at an incredible pace that we sometimes fail to recognise its significance, no sooner than it vanishes. for this reason, I urge you to play big in the game of life and honour your talents, resources and gifts to the best of your ability. It is incumbent on you to bring to life the best version of yourself regardless of your limitations. Being at your best is an evolving process, yet the one true constant is that you improve without settling. What we receive in life is proportional to what we believe we deserve. History has revealed less talented people who have achieved outstanding success owing to their commanding self-belief.
Don’t Equate Failure To Self-Worth
“A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do.” – Bob Dylan
I invite you to overcome your fears and push past your resistance as you make the leap forward. These two aspects alone can keep us stranded because our life’s objectives become diluted, through the fog of separation. Sacrifice is essential in any field where the prize is big. Nothing is gained standing on the side-lines. Even time is a sacrifice when pursuing our passion. Those who play small, receive smaller rewards. Those who take risks with little assurances, are compensated owing to their enduring commitment. Life honours those willing to risk it all and play big. In his acclaimed book Mastery author Robert Greene captures this sentiment where he writes: “In the end, the money and success that truly last come not to those who focus on such things as goals, but rather to those who focus on mastery and fulfilling their Life’s Task.”
The life task he speaks of is our one true purpose that flames our inner desires and awakens our potential. Life mirrors our commitment to excellence. For this reason, we ought to be vigilant how we spend our time and energy. Similarly, we must reframe failure as an investment in future success. Why have we become so scared of failure nowadays? Because we equate failure to self-worth. You are not a failure if an outcome does not result as planned. The outcome has failed, directing you to try a different approach next time. It was Albert Einstein who said, if you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things. Are you happy with this idea that failure needn’t impact your self-worth but be used as fuel to edge you closer to your goals?
Hard Work And Commitment
“If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn
We cannot lose in the game of life where lessons are learned and wisdom is gained. Success arrives when we least expect it, due to the hard work and tireless commitment to greatness. Self-doubt is a killer of many dreams; one should conquer it before it flourishes. We must avoid cowering in defeat to rising doubts, yet rise above our challenges with renewed strength. Doubts are persistent thoughts that vanish when we take inspired action. In light of this, develop an insatiable self-belief and nurture it daily. Become the CEO of your own life and command it with steadfast leadership. Don’t wait for others to acknowledge your talents, genius and gifts. Greet the world with passion and enthusiasm.
Moreover, create your own definition of success. Don’t be lulled into other people’s definition of success since you’ll forever chase your tail trying to live up to other’s expectations. Focus on what matters and allow everything else not conducive to your potential to fall away. If it does not resonate with you, let it go so something better will fill its place. Overcome your fears and focus on what you can achieve. If you are pulled by your fears, you perceive life from a constrained mindset. Get back on your feet and make daily advances toward that which you seek. Are you willing to play big in the game of life, even if it means losing on occasions?
We all know success is attained through hard work and commitment. The mental and emotional resilience gained over time, forms a successful mindset to attract the right opportunities. If we wish to be remembered after we’re gone, we must live for something deeper while still alive. Alfred Nobel knew being an explosive’s expert was not how he intended to live out his days, so he created a new destiny. I urge you to think with the end in mind as the late Stephen Covey said. With this in mind, write in your diary or journal ways to play bigger than you currently are. Come up with five ways and review them often. I like to commit to a daily practice of writing down a limiting belief and working through it to transform it into an empowering belief. What are you willing to do to play big in the game of life? It is from that place you create an exceptional life using your talents, gifts and genius while following your purpose.