“Life is short, and we do not have much time to gladden the hearts of those who travel with us, so be quick to love and make haste to be kind.” – Henri-Frédéric Amiel (1821-1881)
Life is certainly a journey full of hills, valleys, bumpy roads and smooth roads at times. Sometimes life is predicable and sometimes not so predictable. You can have periods where everything seems to be going well and other times when it seems like you are a magnet for negative distractions and situations.
No one gets to go through life free from some sort of trial or tribulation, but what everyone does have is the opportunity to adopt a positive perspective no matter what they encounter. Let’s face it, tough times will show up, people will let you down; you will experience loss, failure, setbacks, and more. You can choose to focus on those negative things or you can choose to focus on the positive things in your life.
Attitude is everything when it comes to whether you live a life full of passion and purpose or full of regret and resentment. I’m sure you’ve met individuals who have been through trial after trial and still come to work smiling and handing out blessings to those in need. They have chosen to learn life lessons through the trials and embrace a positive perspective regardless of the circumstances.
How do you learn to live a life full of passion and purpose even when life does not go as planned?
It is important to recognise that how you handle emotions determines whether you will be able to live with passion or not. Emotions are energy in motion, so if your emotions are primarily negative, you are living life bound by emotions that will keep you down. You will be passionless. On the other hand, if your emotions are primarily positive, you will be living a life full of passion, joy, peace, and purpose.
Embrace life with all your senses.
To live a passionate life, you must first learn to embrace your senses. Don’t hold back your emotions, rather embrace them, experience them, process them, and then let them go. This is the healthy way to handle emotions.
Do what you love.
You may not love every aspect of your life, but you certainly can make the effort to do things that you enjoy. Do what you love. Life gets busy with work, kids, chores, stress, etc., so it is vital that you make time to engage in activities that you love. The feelings that will come to you as you engage in such activities will refresh and invigorate your spirit and enable you to live a life full of passion and vitality.
What do you love to do? Stop right now and think about it. Make a list of things that warm your heart and bring you joy. Now commit to doing those things on that list more frequently. Try new things, rediscover the joy of doing old things, make new friends, treat yourself to ice cream, pursue that career you are passionate about, take your spouse out for dinner and a movie, cuddle up with a good book, buy your struggling friend bags of groceries, etc.
You will find yourself smiling more and passion will flow like a domino effect in your life. You may even inspire others to start doing “life” different as well. Make the effort. Do what you love.
Bring your “whole self” into each experience.
Do you realise you only know the “iceberg tip” of most people? What this means is that people usually only show the good side of them. Like the brunt of an iceberg is submersed under water, the not-so-good side of people is buried as well. No one likes to show their “whole” self because it’s humbling to admit that you have a darker or struggling side.
To live a passionate life though, you must learn to bring your whole self into each experience that you have; the good, the bad, and the ugly. I’m not saying you have to act out character defects, but I am saying that it is alright to be the true you; the real deal.
When you enter a romantic relationship, oftentimes your partner mirrors your darker side. In essence, they bring to surface issues that you have with yourself. Own such issues and work through them. In doing so, you will find freedom and be able to live life more passionately.
Find what makes your heart sing for joy and make more time for it.
People who approach their death bed often look back with remorse on how they wish they made more time for their loved ones, or completed things they said they were going to do but never did.
Don’t wait until it’s too late. Find out what makes your heart sing and get busy doing it. You will discover passion and purpose like you never have before.
Planning is great, but be aware that life does not go as planned. Allow room for detours and pit stops. If you release expectations as to how life should unfold, you will feel more free and passionate about life in general. Expectations are premeditated resentments. Certainly you can have goals and action plans, but don’t be so rigid with them that you are stressed out all the time.
Relax. Release. Allow.
Make room for the new.
Just as computers need to be upgraded every so often, be prepared to upgrade you every so often. Make room for the new. Change is inevitable and healthy for individuals. The same old stuff day after day can get quite boring. Release the tired, old programs, perspectives, beliefs, programming, etc., and make way for the new and you will begin to notice that you are living life more passionately in no time.
I guarantee you if you put these practices to work you will see change in your perspective and your life. You can live a life full of passion and purpose! Focus on these key points for 30 days and see how your life changes in just one month. Little by little you can reinvent yourself from the inside out to find enjoyment in life more palpable.