“You only know yourself when you go beyond your limits.” — Paulo Coelho
Fear maintains its presence in your life through the energy given to it.
It is the accumulation of pain and betrayal that characterises fear.
It’s typical for many to hide from their fears, though sooner or later they grow big enough and overpower you.
“The purpose of fear is to keep us alive, and to protect us from dangerous situations. If you’re sitting in Starbucks and a hungry tiger saunters through the front door, fear can be a powerful evolutionary gift that saves your life,” writes Jamie Smart in Clarity: Clear Mind, Better Performance, Bigger Results.
Have you noticed that avoiding fear gives it more energy to keep it alive? Distancing yourself from fear does not loosen its grip on you, it only constricts it.
What is the antidote for overcoming fear?
Moving towards your fears is the way to make peace with them, so they don’t conquer you.
Fear stifles personal growth and limits your potential because of the narrative it preaches.
It is nothing more than an illusion conjured up by the mind to keep you safe.
If you consider the storyline fear promotes, it is one of security and survival. That’s all well and good, until it limits your success and happiness.
Has fear stopped you taking action in aspects of your life?
Do you play it safe in terms of relationships for fear of being hurt again?
Whilst it’s understandable, underlying this conflict is the need to be in a loving relationship. This desire means you either subscribe to fear or trust your heart to lead the way.
Your source of joy and happiness can only be found in the unknown.
Brendon Burchard explains in The Motivation Manifesto: “Fear rules us only if we let it. In almost all cases, it is something that we can choose to activate or not activate. We can choose to run or not, even if our impulse is blaring at its highest decibel to run.”
“You can only hide from yourself in the noise, but not in the quiet. If you truly want to get to know yourself, then get rid of the distractions. If you want to really understand what has been holding you back, then simply and calmly focus your full attention within, and observe.” — Bryant McGill
Do you stay within your comfort zone with respect to your career?
Do you feel unworthy of success or a better career?
Be honest and face up to your pain, otherwise it’s likely to become your disappointment later on.
You have so much potential that yearns to be developed. First, you must confront your fears and see them as nothing more than a facade that keeps you confined, most of the time.
Have you noticed those who insist on staying safe?
They never grow or venture outside their comfort zone. These same people complain life is unfair, and that success is hard to attain.
They believe life conspires against them and refuse to take risks. They avoid awakening their greatest potential, because fear convinces them it is not worth the effort.
Their fears are their adversaries, not their safeguard.
“It is helpful to remember that fear closes you down, keeping you caught in the game of resisting Life, which builds a wall between you and Life. This wall of resistance stops Life from flowing through you, cutting you off from the joy of being fully alive,” states Mary O’Malley in: What’s in the Way Is the Way: A Practical Guide for Waking Up to Life.
I want you to make an agreement with yourself once you’ve finished this article.
Declare you are worthy and capable of achieving what you set your mind to. However, you must move past your fears first and transform them into courage and faith.
You must reconcile your fears, otherwise they will torment you until you silence them.
By facing your fears, you weaken their grip and see them as signposts leading towards a life of meaning and purpose.
There’s a passage in the Bible from the Gospel of St. Thomas that reads: “If you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what is within you will destroy you.”
It is with that I invite you to face your fears, rather than allow them to become your limits.